Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Lemons and Lots of Them

Well. Many things have happened since I last posted. I forgot most of the things I wanted to write about, but.

Alex's wedding was really nice. It was in the mountains. It was considerably - well, I might say, "enlivened." No- not enlivened. It was enawfuled (there's probably a real word for this) by Trey throwing an epic fit. And Sailor Moon tried to fight him.

Ma apparently behaved herself. They met Amber's parents for the first time just before the wedding.

The long and short of it is that we went up, stayed in a cabin, Trey had a conniption, Alex and Amber got married, and it was very nice.

Let's see, there have been a bunch of things that I wanted to talk about. Now, of course, that I actually have time to write them, I can't remember them.

How is the law practice going?

It's - - - going. I suppose I should be happy about this. I've pieced together a little bit of this and a little bit of that and hope to get somewhere. I'm doing mobile closings; at the moment the thing with the French real estate investor seems to have come to an end, I don't know why, and then the Tahitians, I don't know what's going on with that. I have been getting a few cases here and there and battling my way through them. Each thing I do, I am getting better and better at. So the breakthrough will come bit by bit, but the more I do this, the more I understand why they call it the "practice" of law.

Are you still looking for a job?

Sometimes. I am pretty wrapped up in what I am trying to do and then - I might take it more seriously had I gotten somewhere- anywhere- and even document review has dried up. I'm over it, I think over the last year and a half or so, I've sent out something like over 300 cover letters and resumes. And perhaps, some of them aren't very good but I don't know what to write. I have had probably 10? 20? interviews? Even applying to go back and teach French went nowhere. So here I am. Life gives you lemons . . .

And my one friend I know, Miss Cho, who has a job, is also having to take the NC bar and I don't think she's getting paid all that much. So there are disadvantages to having a job. My time and how I spend it is my own. That's good! I'm taking advantage of it as much as I can- I don't have to get up early, no stupid meetings, life is - ok. And it is interesting and challenging.

Well, you should be happy, you have a roof over your head, food to eat . . . bills are (mostly) paid . . .

Dammit, I do remind myself of that, and then on the other hand, I should be doing better. There's only so much one can lower one's expectations. I have two degrees and I don't ask THAT much out of life but the smallest things seem to have become unattainable. I was hoping for in house counsel at an international corporation in 07, then reduced that idea, and reduced it, and now I have this. It shouldn't have been too much to think I'm going to make 60-80 straight out of school. I did externships and tax clinic and worked hard (at least honestly) at a pretty good school. I speak several languages and have good experience prior to law school. Honestly, I should be doing better.

Well, it's the Obamalypse, so.

Suppose things DON'T get better?

Now I read a lot of old Car and Driver magazines, like the caretaker in The Moonstone turned to Robinson Crusoe when he was feeling out of sorts. I purchased a whole bunch of the things- boxes of them- and I read about all the doom and gloom in the late 70s. In 1978-1979, it really DID look like nothing would get better and everyone predicted that by 1984 we'd be driving three cylinder sub chevette cars. But things did get better. I'm hopeful, but what is it going to take? I don't have much faith that the Republicans who can do something about the economy will get elected. I am NOT voting for Romney, we just had the spoilt Daddy's boy as president, and although Bush handled a completely unprecedented crisis, and the WORST crisis of American history faultlessly, we cannot afford another Bush.

I dunno. I'm going to have to figure out, day by day, how I can be better. I suppose now I'm happy I didn't move a few years ago and am now paying a 120K note on a house that's worth 40.

But you're paying an $80K note on a house worth 30.

This, sadly, is true.

What about Trey? What's that whole situation about?

Well. Trey still does not have a job. He is in school for welding. I am seriously beginning to think that he probably won't ever really be self sufficient. His best shot at that was Masada and he messed that up. He is helping out by giving me food stamps. We are friends, although there really haven't been any benefits, I haven't been much in the mood. Now, Trey is dating/seeing other people. I haven't been seeing anyone much cos I've been too bizzy but "Robin" is supposed to visit at the end of the year.

"Robin" is still around?

Yes! I care about him but the whole Virginia thing- I know he had to go there for his job but . . . it is making things much harder. In Nashville, I could just pop up there.

In terms of Trey, honestly what I am hoping (however unlikely this might be) is that either he will get it together and move on- this was meant to be a temporary thing- or that someone will fall madly in love with him- (look now! I've seen worse!) and then that will at least temporarily solve that issue. Perhaps in some way or another, we will always be together, at least as friends. We are getting on well and he is keeping me from being lonely or climbing the walls. That being said, I think that we probably both know better than to try to date again. On the other hand, he really seems to have changed, but also, I'm just not in the place right now to devote a single bit of mental energy to trying to start a relationship with anyone other than my career. That's my whole focus right now.

Did you do anything for Halloween?

NO! I had Kaplan class the night of and have just been too wiped to really concentrate on that.

You didn't celebrate HALLOWEEN? That is nuts!

I know. This has been a bizarre year.

Well, what about Thanksgiving?

What about it? We had it, it was good, no epic arguments, but enjoyable, and then Trey was in Chattanooga doing community service for his DUI . . . Thanksgiving is fairly standard - - - You know Dad wants it done the exact same way, every year.

Then I dunno about Christmas. I wish there were more to look forward to in terms of $. I still want a fur coat. But not- for some time yet. We'll see. Eventually.